Let’s be real for a second men are just as obsessed with their bodies as we are. While we might stress over our curves, our skin, or those post-baby stretch marks, a lot of men are secretly freaking out about something else: the size of their penises.
Yep, it’s true. They’ll never admit it, but it’s one of their biggest insecurities. And you know what? We need to talk about it. So today, we’re diving right in does size really matter in bed, or is it just one of those things society hypes up for no reason? Let’s get into it.
Here’s the Skinny: Does Size Really Matter?
Short answer: NO. Seriously, it doesn’t really matter at all. A small percentage of women say they actually think it’s an important factor when it comes to sexual satisfaction, whereas most women list half a dozen other things that matter way more for pleasure than penis size. Women are the ones that matter here, right? If they say it doesn’t matter . . . IT DOESN’T MATTER.
Let’s Debunk These Penis Size Myths
Size is the only thing that determines sexual satisfaction.
This is just not true! Most women say that the emotional intimacy and love that they have for their partner impacts sexual satisfaction WAY more than size. Beyond that loving bond (because, you know, sometimes we’re not in it for a relationship), technique is another factor that’ll affect satisfaction more than size.
Girth doesn’t matter just length.
It seems like all the talk is about what the tape measure reads for length, when really that’s not the only element of size. Where one man may “fall short” in length, they make up for in girth and vice versa. Each provides a different sensation, but they’re all good with the right technique, communication, and connection.
Bigger is always better when it comes to pleasure.
Just NO. Like we said, there are other aspects of sex that matter way more when it comes to a woman’s pleasure. But, what we haven’t talked about is that not all women prefer large sizes! Just like a man’s penis varies in size and shape, so do our vaginas.
Some women may be uncomfortable with larger penis sizes due to differences in their pelvic floor or size of their vaginal opening they actually prefer a small size. Other women don’t get all that much satisfaction from penetrative sex period and are more interested in other services a man could offer sexually. The point is, most women don’t care about size AT ALL.
The little blue pill can significantly increase size.
We’ve all heard of the little blue pill and what it can do for aging men or men with ED. It can do a lot for achieving and maintaining an erection. However, it’s a total myth that it can increase size. All the little blue pill does is help increase blood flow and nothing to do with enlarging the penis.
You can “grow” your penis.
This is another one that’s just not true. Just like you can’t increase the length of any other part of your body using natural remedies or internet hacks, a man can’t increase the size of his penis in any way, shape, or form. Sorry, guys.
What To Do If Your Partner Is Insecure With Penis Size
Tell them how attracted you are to them.
Tell your man how hot you think he is as often as possible. Compliment every part of him (including his package) on the reg so there’s never any doubt you find him irresistible.
Compliment them during sex A LOT.
Unless he’s not into dirty talk during sex, tell him how much you’re liking what he’s doing. Compliment his looks, physique, technique, and selflessness during sex. This will be a HUGE confidence boost.
Emphasize your sexual pleasure.
Okay, we’re not saying fake it, BUT if you’re feeling it, don’t keep it to yourself. Express your satisfaction in any way you’re into (or he’s into) to show him that his size in no way affects your sex life.
Explore different sexual positions and techniques.
Even if a man is well-endowed from his own perspective, not all men and women are compatible sexually. You may not get pleasure from the same positions or techniques, so experiment and explore all sorts of avenues to find one that fits you best. (And assure your S.O. that it’s not about size, just about preference.)
If you’re pretty vanilla right now, don’t sweat it. You don’t have to get wild. Experiment with different positions, buy some sexy lingerie, refine your oral sex skills, get into roleplaying, or even try a few toys. Never let any shame come to the bedroom, guys.
Never ever compare them to someone else.
Don’t ever play the comparison game. How would you feel if he compared one of your intimate features to another woman he’d been with? Uh, no. So, even if he asks, NEVER compare his penis to someone else’s.
Be intimate beyond sex.
Intimacy is about so much more than sex. It’s about quality time together, expressing appreciation, cuddling and kissing, doing favors for each other, sharing hobbies, and listening to each other. Simple things can have a big impact on your relationship and your man’s confidence.
Be patient and support where you can.
This insecurity could run DEEP. Whether it was a negative past relationship, years of bullying, or other mental health problems, your S.O.’s self-confidence may not improve overnight. Just be patient, keep building him up, and support wherever you can.
Size doesn’t matter for most women–focus on technique and intimacy for an AMAZING sex life.
A good sex life is important for any relationship, but the size of a man’s penis doesn’t actually affect satisfaction much at all. This biggest blow a small penis may have on your man is to his sense of self-confidence and masculinity.
You can build that up and support his manhood by being super supportive and letting him know how hot you think he is. (And how good you think he is in bed.) The point is, penis size doesn’t matter, and it’s time to focus on other aspects of your sexual relationship to level up your intimacy.
And if you’re looking to spice things up in the bedroom be sure to try Woo coconut oil lube, Shag juice or the best vibrator ever.
For more on all things sex, listen to The HIM & HER Show episode with Emily Morse: The Sex Expert of all Experts.
x, The Skinny Confidential team.
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